Thursday, November 24, 2016

I'm coming out of the theological closet




Dear Friends, 

There's something that I've been hiding. It's something that I have been working through for years but have wrestled especially hard with over the last 2 and a half years. 

I don't believe that homosexuality is a sin. 

Yes you read right. I don't believe that homosexuality is a sin. 

I believe you can be gay and a follower of Jesus. 

I believe that God blesses gay marriage and that he opens his arms to all people including LGBTQ people. 

I believe the passages in the Bible condemning homosexuality have been taken out of context and that they were never meant to be used to clobber or deny an entire group of people for being different. 

I believe that the church has done enough damage to LGBTQ people and that it needs to take a deeper look into the "clobber" passages of the Bible.

And I believe that those who like me who are straight allies to LGBTQ people need to come out of the theological closets and stand along our brothers and sisters and let them know they are not alone. 

I could go into a long detailed description for why I believe as I do but I'm not going to. At least not at this point. I can tell you that this has not be a decision that was made overnight. It has been years in the making. I have spent countless hours reading and praying and searching for answers to hard questions. I've had moments of guilt because changing my mind on this issue means not agreeing with my family and many close friends. I have had moments of fear because I know that many other Christians will believe me to have lost my way. To them I will now just be someone who doesn't believe the Bible and lets her feelings control her. But I'm not letting my feelings control me. If I did I wouldn't be writing this post because standing up for what you believe in is scary and hard - especially when you share a faith with many who will consider you to be wrong. I could continue to support LGBTQ people secretly or among those who I know agree with me but I don't think that's right. I think keeping something this important quiet isn't any better than those who are preaching hate and exclusion to LGBTQ people. Staying silent is just as dangerous and unloving and that's why I'm writing this. 

There are many other people who have already written books and articles about this and I will leave a few of them below. These are just a few of the books I've read. There are so many more books and articles and blogs out there and they are all a few clicks of a computer away. Please don't read this post and just dismiss me as being unchristian or unbiblical - please look into this for yourself.

"Torn" by Justin Lee. You can read an essay he wrote at https://www.gaychristian.net/justins_view.php

"God and the Gay Christian" by Matthew Vines. You can visit his website at http://www.matthewvines.com/

"Unclobber" by Colby Martin. You can visit his website at https://colbymartinonline.com/


Wednesday, February 3, 2016

Baby Claire Zoey

5 days before giving birth

Claire Zoey the day she was born
8lbs 8ozs

Claire now :)


As I'm sitting here my sweet baby girl is sleeping against my chest, snoring in an adorable way only a baby can do. In my opinion (which I know is completely biased) she is the most beautiful thing I have ever laid eyes on! 

Two months ago today Suraj and I were home resting after having spent our early morning hours at the midwife centre where I gave birth to our sweet little Claire Zoey. Over the last two months we have had moments of elation and moments of panic where we realized this is real and this kid is our responsibility...24/7! We've had moments where we have felt completely clueless but also moments of celebration when we realized we're getting the hang of stuff. There have been ups and downs, many sleepless nights where Claire's colicky screams would go on for hours but also many days with the most amazing baby snuggles. Claire is a special little girl and it's been amazing to spend time getting to know her, but it's also been amazing for me to see my husband become a father and to get to know that side of him as well. I've gotten so see a part of him I would never have seen without Claire. Watching him spend time with his daughter is something that is so beautiful and special and I love it! He's a great daddy to his little girl and you can see how much he's falling in love with her. 

We have been so blessed to have so many people caring about how we are doing since Claire has arrived. From family to friends to strangers on the street who want to tell us how cute our baby is, we are so thankful for the outpouring of love! This has been a crazy ride but it's the people who love us and who support us who make it that much better. So thank you :). 


Wednesday, November 18, 2015

The Christian Response to the Attacks in Paris

I was saddened this weekend when I heard about the attacks in Paris. Something like that is never okay and my heart breaks for those whose lives have been forever altered by this tragedy. However my heart is also breaking for Muslims around the world who are now being targeted and persecuted for something they had nothing to do with. In Canada alone there have been mosque burnings and women who have been beaten and called terrorists. There have been people who are threatening good people who have been living in Canada for decades just because of what they believe. I wish I could say that the people who share what I believe have nothing to do with this persecution but unfortunately it's been brought to my attention more than once that many Christians have taken to the internet and social media to spread hate in the name of Jesus. This is not okay. 

It's not okay for those of us who claim to follow Jesus to allow our fear to override His teachings. Jesus told us to love. To love our brothers and sisters in Christ, to love our neighbours and to love our enemies. I would think neighbours and enemies covers everyone, wouldn't you? So why does it seem that some of us ignore what has been asked of us in times of uncertainty? Personally I think fear has a lot to do with it. Fear seems to mess us up in a lot of ways and makes good people do and say stupid things. But that doesn't give us an excuse. We are not allowed to persecute others because we are afraid. We are not allowed to hurt good men and women because we haven't taken the time to get to know them or understand them. What saddens me is that there are people noticing our response. They have noticed that the Christians are spouting hatred along with everyone else, and they're asking "why"? Aren't Christians supposed to be different? I think we need to take a good look at what we are doing right now. We need to think before we speak and before we post something online. We need to err on the side of love more than the side of hate. All we have to do is read the words of Jesus and we see that what He taught doesn't line up with the actions some of us have been taking. 

To those of you who don't follow Jesus I ask you not to do to us what some of us have done to you. Don't assume we are all the same. Don't assume that because some of us spread hate that we all do. We don't all hate and we don't all look down on those who believe differently than us. There are many of us who love people...period. There are many of us who are not going to speak out against you and who are going to love you regardless of if we agree on everything because you matter. 

Monday, November 9, 2015

Just a little update

It's so hard for me to believe that it's already November and this year is nearing it's end. And as I'm realizing this year is coming to a close I have also realized it's been ages since I have written a post. I know often my posts have a theme behind them but this one is just a quick update into the lives of the Reddy family :).  

My last post was a pregnancy announcement and since then we have come a long way. We are now only a little over 3 weeks until my due date and we can't wait to meet our little son or daughter :). Suraj has been amazing as we have gone through our first pregnancy. He has been more patient than I knew was possible for one person to be. He has walked with me through every new pregnancy symptom, has been at every appointment with our midwife and has just been the emotional support that I've needed in my hormonal moments (which as we near the end have been more and more frequent). I am so grateful to have Suraj with me through all of this. His support and love and willingness have been so amazing!


Along with being excited about upcoming birth of our child is the excitement of being in a new apartment. We moved at the end of August to a new apartment with a bit more room and in a quieter area which we have been liking. It's especially nice this time of year with all the colourful trees that are surrounding the community we live in. A day or two before we were going to move we had a bit of a hiccup when we found out the U-Haul we booked was actually not available for when we booked it. That meant we needed to move the night before we had planned. The people who were able to help us couldn't help that night and Suraj wasn't letting me lift a thing so we weren't sure how things were going to work out. Thankfully God  knows what we need better than we do because our small group from church abandoned their plans and came to our rescue! My parents also came up and helped us out and in the end the move was smoother and quicker than we could have hoped. We have been loving our new place and can't wait to enjoy all the little firsts with our new baby here. 

As we near the Christmas season now I hope all of you find reasons to smile and show love to one another. Hopefully soon I will have an update about the birth of our little one! 





Saturday, July 18, 2015

The Reddy's have Big News!

My husband Suraj and I are so excited to announce to all of you that we are expecting our first child! 


That's right! 

We're pregnant!

We are due in December and we are beyond happy :). We are now half way through our pregnancy and can't wait to meet our little son or daughter. 

This pregnancy is something we wanted and planned for and it's something we are so grateful to be experiencing and going through together. I have been so thankful to have Suraj with me on this. He has been so supportive and has been taking crazy good care of me. I am so lucky to have such a good man as a husband and this baby is going to be just as lucky to have him as a father. 

Thank you for journeying with us this far. 












Saturday, June 27, 2015

Legalism and Our Family





This post has been a long time coming. I realized recently I have dropped the ball on blogging. Part of that was due to the fact that a lot of things have been happening in our lives lately some of which I will share with you in a later blog. Another reason I haven't been blogging is partly due to the fact that I haven't known how to share what I wanted to without feeling like a total heel.

We gave up our movie and TV fast. I know that to many of you this may not seem like a big deal but it really was to me. We actually managed to go movie and TV free for a good couple of months and that in itself has been good for us. But the reason we ended our fast was we realized we weren't really doing it for the right reasons. Sure we started off with good intentions as you may have read in a previous post, but we lost sight of why we were fasting and soon it became more than just a fast. We found that we had slipped into what Christians like to call "legalism". We were no longer doing things out of our love for God but because we felt like we had to to earn God's love. And while we sounded like we had good reasons for our fast, when we looked at the core reason it had been another way we were trying to be "enough" for God. I don't fully know how we got to that point. It wasn't something that happened overnight but it was a gradual shift. We had become two very guilt ridden people who never felt like they were doing enough.

When we took a step back and had that moment of "What are we doing to ourselves?" we realized that part of the problem with what we were doing was that we were sacrificing for the sake of sacrificing. I'm not saying that's always wrong but in our case it got to the point where we were constantly looking for something else to give up for God, some way to deny ourselves so that we felt more "Holy". That's when we realized we needed to stop and that's when our TV fast ended. Unfortunately because of the months we had spent trying to become "good enough" for God when we gave up the fast it felt like we failed. It was after working through some of those feelings that we realized that sacrificing for God isn't in itself bad. We were simply doing it for the wrong reasons. We decided that day that when we do make sacrifices we wanted them to be more relationship based. When we gave up TV we both got really into reading which is great, but because reading is a one person thing we weren't communicating as much, we were so into our own little worlds of books that we weren't making an effort to make ourselves more available to others. Which is why when we realized what we were doing we wanted to make sacrifices in ways that loved others and didn't just make us feel more spiritual.

Our TV fast was good for us in some ways and we likely will occasionally give up TV for periods of time. It's something that is good to do every once and a while to remind you life doesn't really revolve around those characters on your shows. My husband developed a love for reading while we were fasting, something that isn't as intense now as it was when we were TV free but is still there. He went from being someone who felt that reading was a chore to someone who I have to literally drag out of the library some days.

There are some sacrifices that we have made prior to our TV fast that we have kept and plan to continue to keep. Living a more minimal lifestyle is one of those things. We don't so much call ourselves minimalists these days because when people think of minimalists they imagine people with basically bare walls, who live with 100 items or less. We definitely don't have bare walls and we have more than 100 items in our home. We now tell people we have chosen to live simply. It's that simple living that has taught us to be thankful for what we have, to not just be consumers but to be givers, and it has taught us that a simple life can be much more satisfying and less stressful than a life full of everything we may think we need or want. Living simply has improved our quality of life and it has given us more opportunities to be more generous and giving to others. It's for those reasons we still hold onto this lifestyle even though it is sacrificial in some ways.

Thank you for journeying with us through this blog - I hope you learn something from our journey or are encouraged in your own in some way.

Friday, April 3, 2015

I Forgot...



Happy Easter! 


I woke up this morning and realized it was Good Friday. I knew today was going to be Good Friday for weeks so it's not that I forgot the day was coming, it's just that I forgot why. I was looking forward to today because it was an extra day my husband had off and could be home with me. What I forgot was the reason he has today off. Because of this day my life has meaning and purpose. This day is what allowed me to be close to God. It allowed me to let go of my sin and become a new person. I forgot that because of today my sins are forgiven! I forgot about all of that. It's not that I never think about Jesus dying for my sins. I do quite often. But I got so caught up in other things going on in our lives right now and in preparations for Easter that for the last couple weeks I forgot why today matters. 

I'm not writing this to turn it into any kind of lesson or to make a "5 reason Christians should remember Good Friday". This is just my confession. I find it's so easy sometimes for me to let life get in the way of what really matters and this morning I realized I was letting things slip in where they shouldn't be.  

I hope that you all have an amazing Easter and that you have precious time with family and friends and also time to remember the One who loves you more than anyone and who paid the price for all of our sins. Jesus.